Using the ancient principles of the 5 elements

For healing to work, it has to be holistic. These 5 elements are a thorough map designed to guide you through a complete healing journey, where no part of the process is neglected. All phases are gone through and thus healing can be complete.

WHY the 5 elements? These are over-riding principles that can be found in all of nature, and in Life itself. As humans we are made of these 5 elements, and all life processes can be understand within the context of these 5 principles. Everything that exists goes through a cycle of these 5 principles. Things get born, grow, flower, reach a peak and a harvest, decay and then die. A relationship or a marriage—just like any other process in life or nature, will also go through this same cycle. In order for healing to take place, it’s essential that these 5 cycles are understood and worked with. The unique aspect of our Healing Divorce program is that it is sourced by this profound understanding of life.

A separation process brings out intense emotions in most people. Unfortunately most of us haven’t been taught to release these emotions in a way that promotes healing. When emotions are not released constructively, they get stored in our bodies and lead to unhealthy behaviors like obsessive mental thinking, losing our temper, and feelings of depression and apathy. Pent up emotions are harmful to our health and to our ability to open our heart to love again. In this module you’ll be guided through a unique process that is designed to help free you from the most common emotions present in any breakup. This module creates a supportive environment to safely move past these emotions so that your heart can be healed. 

RESULT: • Greater aliveness • Heart is released and healed • Increased access to clarity and joy • Renewed Inner Peace • Improved sleep and well-being • Freedom to consciously grieve and move forward 

“Michael and Neelama helped me release all the stored up emotions I’d been carrying since my ex left me. I’d done years of talk therapy, but was never able to let go of the anger and blame. In this short but powerful time with them, my heart is finally free to move forward!” ~S.M., Nurse, Virginia  

Often in the pain and chaos of a breakup, we lose our center—and our ability to see a clear path forward. We often give our power over to our ex, becoming a victim. This module helps us to break the spell the other has on us, and come back to our true power. In order for us to grow, it’s important to uncover the learnings of this relationship, so that we can transform from this breakup (and it’s not just a tragedy). The gift of the metal element is a clearer understanding of what motivates your behavior, particularly in unhealthy ways. The work in this module liberates you from the patterns of your past and allows you to consciously choose a future mate from a place of clarity versus fantasy. You become free—to choose the kind of relationship you want to create with yourself, your children, and your future partner. 

RESULT: • Liberate yourself from the unconscious beliefs that control your behavior in relationship • Break the chains that keep you from having the love you want • Newfound self-awareness • Freedom from the pattern of heartbreak • A clear mind from which to take action and chart a new path forward • Opening to Self Love

In order for any process of healing to be holistic and complete, both sides of the coin need to be examined. The Earth element gives us the capacity to take responsibility for our contribution to the ‘dance of relationship’. This can be difficult to understand, particularly if we have been left, betrayed, or abused by our ex. Yet, what we have discovered in our work with thousands of people, and in our own divorce, is that the old adage is true: it really does take two to tango. Most approaches neglect this fundamental inquiry—leaving many people unfinished with their ex, and thus unhealed. Yes we have been hurt – and we also have caused hurt—not because we are bad, but simply because we are human. Through this module, you are guided in a loving and compassionate way, to examine your contribution to the relationship dynamic. This can result in a profound forgiveness and compassion. When we can arrive at true forgiveness and compassion, our heart is healed and opened to life and love again in a profound way. In the words of a wise saint and mystic, “It is in pardoning that we are pardoned.”  

RESULT: • Increased Self awareness • Profound compassion and forgiveness • Opening the heart to an entirely new level • Deepened understanding of yourself • Profound inner peace and resolution with the past • A truly expanded heart from which to find love again

This Water element brings the gifts of the sacred into a seemingly ‘unsacred’ process. This element, in the cycle of life, is about completion. Endings—and how we ‘end’ our relationship, sets the stage for how we ‘birth,’ or move forward into our next relationship. This module will helps you to consciously complete the past in a way that will set the stage for a brand new life. In this module, you’ll be guided through a profound process of going inward, reflecting, and learning to come home to yourself. In our extremely ‘out going culture,’ it’s so crucial to learn what it means to be truly sourced from ‘within’. This helps us out of our over-dependence on the other to be the only source of Love in our lives. This inner filling, that happens through the water module, is essential for healthy relationships moving forward. The water module teaches us that the primary source of love is self-love. 

RESULT: • Enhanced Self love • Increased ability to remain calm amidst the storm. • Experiencing the gifts of being single: from loneliness to aloneness: the capacity to enjoy solitude • A profound shift in your ability to complete the past and move forward in your life • Access to your unique Spiritual source • Ability to truly meet your future Love from a place of fullness versus dependence